Are you a Swinger?
The date…1971 you walk into a room of people dressed in tight mini skirts and polyester leisure suits. The gold chains around the neck while showing off their hairy chests, point out how cool they really are. If they are lucky, they will end the evening “swapping” and going home with another persons spouse… Is this you? Chances are, this is the image that most of us, along with the general public, have imbedded in our minds about what swingers are like.
Welcome to 2003! Who are today’s Swingers? Would you believe that Vice Presidents of major corporations, Politicians, Teachers and even Clergy are sharing their most intimate relationships? People that may have just met on the Internet or in person, thanks to thousands of swing clubs, private house parties and personal magazine ads, many are taking the average friendship and going the next step. Some are even meeting at the work place or college dorms. The big difference now is that it is no longer a lifestyle set aside for dark hidden bars in the tucked away shadows of the inner cities. Lost with this are the Gold chains, Miniskirts and Polyester leisure suits. Amen!
Through our 10 years of observing and/or counseling over 5000 couples within the alternative lifestyles…we have noticed the following:
- Most are middle to upper income
- Most have college educations
- Most have chosen this lifestyle to enhance (Not substitute) their primary relationship.
- Most have very stable and secure primary relationships and would not consider cheating on their significant other…or have the need.
- Almost all are very considerate of others wishes and needs and know what “no thank you” means
- Almost all take major precautions to prevent sexually transmitted diseases.
- We find that a major percentage (better than 80%) are NON-smokers.
- Swingers tend to take care of their bodies more than non-swingers, but than again…this lifestyle is like dating.
- Surprisingly enough over 90% of all women are bi-sexual or bi-curious where only about 40% of the men are orally bi in any given group situation. (About 10% in a non group environment…one on one)
- We find the average age to be 34-40 contrast with the 70’s, the average age was more like 45-50.
